I love Humans of New York. I love that in the sharing of the wins of life, these are real posts about real people and their real thoughts and reality.
One post really struck me. It was two parents sharing about their boys who died in a 6 part series. They said, "after the boys died, we never thought we'd be happy again ... (but) 'happy now' is different than 'happy then,' but we do feel happiness again.
This profound statement. In the height of tragedy it can be hard to see a way out. But as time necessarily moves on, you find a new way. This understanding that being happy now is different than being happy before opens up grief to a new level. It brings freedom to finding a new way of living. It brings freedom to never letting go of those we love, but learning to live without them. It brings freedom to moving on without moving past.
Shortly after we lost Levi the movie, "Inside Out" came out. It struck a chord with me. The freedom of feeling two emotions in a single moment was an eye-opener. I finally felt like I could feel my emotions fully - not having to deny one to feel the other.
Happy now for me is significantly different than happy before.
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